ABCs of Love – 11. Who Are We Going To Be?

Pair-bonding is not only about sex, family, and prosperity − or love in general if you will. On a deeper level, the endeavor is also about identity. It may start with the question: “Who am I?” And a milestone question might then arise: “Who are we going to be?” Who Am I? That is the (more…)

ABCs of Love – 3. Lost In Translation: Amorous Love

Oh yes, amorous love is lost in translation. Religious people are fond of talking about God’s love, and many of the younger generations are tuned into great sex by the porn industry. “What’s love got to do with it?” asked American singer Tina Turner in her hit song from 1984. What is amorous love? Well, (more…)

ABCs of Love – 4. The big Question: Can Love Last?

The short answer to this question is: yes and no. Oh, why make it so difficult? Because life and love are difficult. Both life and love are afflicted by temporality, that is, duration. Sure, one can look at life and love from the perspective of an instant, but what good is that? The brash young (more…)

ABCs of Love – 8. Similarities as well as Opposites Attract

Now, liking and similarity and opposites by themselves do not make for a good checklist. But I think that any approach to pair-bonding and checklists needs to take the notions of liking, similarities, and opposites into account − and in that temporal order. First, let’s talk a bit more about what liking may be. Then, (more…)

ABCs of Love – 6. Modern Courtship to the Rescue

How and whom to bond with are like trials and tribulations for many singles who do not simply fall ‘madly’ in love. That is, falling madly in love is a done deal. You cannot help but be bonded now and everything else just follows. Many of these fateful crushes do not end that well. I (more…)

ABCs of Love – 5. Triangular Theory of Love

Understanding the elements of love and the way they may come together in one’s life can give singles greater insight into their dating efforts. These insights help singles to better decide if a promising relationship with another has long-term potential. Prominent psychologist and author Robert J. Sternberg developed the explanatory Triangular Theory of Love, as (more…)